Not every product is for everybody.
I've been involved in the residential systems industry for many years. I hold a lifetime ETA Master RESI certification and over the years I have written post-secondary programs for integrators and contributed to CEA Standards development.
I've designed and installed dozens of HAI installs (going back to the 1503 that was built in Jay M's basement) and put in hundreds of X-10 devices, filters, repeaters, bridges, and so on, over the years. They could be made to function reliably but they could also be a PITA. The Omni was probably the best power line controller available at the time, but it is a pretty primitive device by today's standards. X-10 was OK as far as it went (it was the only game in town) and Insteon has certainly given it new life. But I find ZWave to be a better solution for my requirements.
There is certainly a learning curve with new technology and ZWave is no exception. I made the switch several years ago and I am still learning the nuances of the protocol. That being said, I am very impressed with what I am able to accomplish with Zwave in general and with Vera units in particular. The open protocol has enabled third party plug-in development which has greatly extended the capabilities of the platform. I can control multiple units with wall-mounted touch screens. With Vera I can integrate ZWave with infrared control functions and robotic relay control over LAN's. It is very reliable and intuitive to use when all is said and done, but it takes a little initiative to make it all come together. In short, is a very capable tool, but it is not for everyone. Kind of like Linux.
If you are happy with what you have and don't require more functionality than the protocol can provide, I'd sell the Vera and find a simpler X-10/Insteon controller that will do the job for you. If you want the level of control and integration that a system like Vera can provide but are frustrated with the process, you could always hire a pro to do it for you.